I actually thought about responding to this back when it was up on the community and decided not to because of that, so I'm glad you've reposted it here. Though I must admit it has taken me forever to get my act sufficiently together to respond.
On air of disclosure rapefic isn't one of my things, so I wanted to take a couple of thoughts you put down and broaden them out a little.
I think one of the important issues that your post raises is that there is no hierarchy of kinks in fandom, or at least there shouldn't be. It's perfectly okay to say I don't read X where X is whatever thing that is morally dubious kink that doesn't turn you on. But it is not the same to imply that no one should write it because it is in your view much sicker then anything that you find erotic.
I also think that with almost any topic with a darker side mental illness/rape/incest and so on, there will be survivors and that any sort of fictional portrayal can raise issues for them. I'm not sure how much "that's my real life" is a good reason for anyone to write what they want to write. After all especially on-line you never know what experiences lie behind the name. I do think it is a really good reason for people to warn and take warnings seriously.
The other big point is that fantasy and reality are not the same thing and that someone can fantasize about something without thinking that it is desirable/acceptable or whatever in their real life. I offer up for consideration the problem here that so many pieces of fiction have internalized racism/misogyny/the rest of the list where it is a real reflection of the authors view as opposed to a view or act committed for some specific purpose that people have a tendency to jump the gun and assume fiction is representing the authors view on the world. Which is rather silly, it can be but it doesn't have to be.
Final point is that I agree with you that people should not be judged by the kinds of erotica they like. Even if some of them make me personally squirm and feel deeply uncomfortable.
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On air of disclosure rapefic isn't one of my things, so I wanted to take a couple of thoughts you put down and broaden them out a little.
I think one of the important issues that your post raises is that there is no hierarchy of kinks in fandom, or at least there shouldn't be. It's perfectly okay to say I don't read X where X is whatever thing that is morally dubious kink that doesn't turn you on. But it is not the same to imply that no one should write it because it is in your view much sicker then anything that you find erotic.
I also think that with almost any topic with a darker side mental illness/rape/incest and so on, there will be survivors and that any sort of fictional portrayal can raise issues for them. I'm not sure how much "that's my real life" is a good reason for anyone to write what they want to write. After all especially on-line you never know what experiences lie behind the name. I do think it is a really good reason for people to warn and take warnings seriously.
The other big point is that fantasy and reality are not the same thing and that someone can fantasize about something without thinking that it is desirable/acceptable or whatever in their real life. I offer up for consideration the problem here that so many pieces of fiction have internalized racism/misogyny/the rest of the list where it is a real reflection of the authors view as opposed to a view or act committed for some specific purpose that people have a tendency to jump the gun and assume fiction is representing the authors view on the world. Which is rather silly, it can be but it doesn't have to be.
Final point is that I agree with you that people should not be judged by the kinds of erotica they like. Even if some of them make me personally squirm and feel deeply uncomfortable.