Just out of pure curiosity, how do you deal with this problem when it comes to novels/TV/movies? I think one of the reasons this character death warning thing annoys me so much is that it's only an issue in fandom, and not anywhere in the, um, professionally published media. Or is it that in fandom it's about characters we know and love and have more emotions invested in than in your average fictional character?

With sex, especially the noncon/dubcon varieties and a couple of other kinks/warnings, I find the need for warnings pretty straightforward (especially when it comes to traumatising experiences), but with other cases it pretty much mystifies me. Though I do have one or two triggerish themes that shake me up badly in fic, but they're way too obscure and/or rare to expect anyone to warn for...