Mike's response was that if someone was bi - they just really weren't completely out of the closet yet.

Yes, that's typical. So riddle me this: a person who is "out" as bisexual is subject to homophobia from the straight community and crap like that from the gay community. So who the hell would claim to be bi if it wasn't freaking true???

Part of the problem is that coming out to yourself is still a huge deal. A lot of gay men will say they were born gay, and have never been anything else. They've always known it. Good for them - but because that's their experience it doesn't mean it's everyone's. For women especially sexuality is more complex than that. And it can change over time. And sometimes there's choice involved. Gays who insist there's no such thing as bisexuality are basically taking the same attitude as fundies who thing gay can be cured. It's bloody minded prejudice and I've got no patience with it.

I'm bisexual, by nature, lesbian by choice. I'm attracted to both sexes. I identify as lesbian because I never want another man in my life (and because bi women just aren't welcome among lesbians) but that doesn't stop me perving over Jensen and Jared every time a new ep of Supernatural comes online!