I'm really not ignoring you on purpose

[briarwood]

Since this has happened to me twice now, let me point something out. If I've met you, for real, face to face, if you have me as a "friend" and I haven't friended you back, it's because I'm an idiot and don't recognise your LJ name. Tell me I know you, and I'll fix that.

Please, please tell me, m'kay?

I don't often post under friends lock but when I do it's solely because I don't want just any random surfer to be able to google whatever I'm posting. If you're real, I don't want to lock you out; it's just that LJ doesn't yet provide a not-LJfriends-but-not-a-robot-stalker-lock.

If I don't friend someone who friends me, it's either because I've checked his or her journal and found it empty or rarely updated, or because I can't see anything we have in common. I don't mind random strangers reading my LJ - I do it that way because I use my flist as a reading list, not as a true "friends" list. But this "policy", such as it is, applies to people I don't know and have never met. It's not meant to apply to fellow fans whom I know in RL, even if we've only met once years and years ago, or even if we no longer have fandoms in common.

I'm an idiot. I don't remember online nicks or userids unless they're really unique and memorable. So tell me. Please.

Comments

Ummm...

[stubbyuk.livejournal.com]

I have a feeling that I'm kind of at least partly behind this one (or maybe its just my inflated ego :) ) I didn't expect you to recognise my nick, hehe, you're not psychic and I wasn't using said name a million years ago when we knew each other so I really, honest injunn wasn't sitting here wondering why you hadn't friended me back, I added you to my list so's I didn't lose your blog (and thereby your fic) wasn't expecting instant recognition back, but hey, very chuffed you did remember me and all :D

Hugs

Re: Ummm...

[morgan32.livejournal.com]

Yes, true, but you're not the first. It kinda makes me paranoid since I don't automatically friend-back the way many LJers do.

And how could I forget? Among other things, you're the one who told me the truth about how Muz broke her arm!

Re: Ummm...

[stubbyuk.livejournal.com]

Well, apologies from mes, as I didn't mean to make you feel bad :)

And hehe, it was kind of funny, well as funny as broken arms get I guess...and probably funnier for me since it wasn't my arm and all.